Today it is 'Ditch your New Years Resolution Day' which means that 'statistically' many people will have already ditched their resolutions by today.
If you have set a good detailed goal, and you have worked out how to achieve it with a level of investment and involvement that is managable then you will just be starting to gain momentum. You will by now be starting to feel that you are establishing a routine
Is this you?
The positive approach to today, is that it if you do feel that you are starting to waiver in your efforts then it is a good time to review the goals that you have set and ask yourself a couple of questions;
Is it actually what you want?
Is it realistic and achievable?
I have written several blogs where the theme has been setting goals, and how best to achieve them. You may have even dialled in to a webinar or come along to a workshop to learn more.
Through any of these channels you will have heard me talk about how the desire to change must be more than the desire to stay the same.
Change is hard work, it takes both mental and physical energy in addition to the emotional investment.
Status Quo has to feel painful enough to make the change feel worth it and for you to put drive and energy to move you into a new 'normal'.
We set goals for a variety of reasons but it is incredibly important to look into why we want to achieve them, why it is important (values and needs), what will be the benefits of achieving success.
If we don't identify these then the status quo, our comfort zone and the zone we know, becomes more attractive and so we slow down the effort and energy because it is easier to stay the same.
Is it actually what you want?
When you achieve your goal how will it look? How will it feel? What will be different? How will you be different? What new behaviours will you have? What old behaviours will you have left behind?
How does it feel when you think about achieving your goal?
The answers to these questions should all be positive. For many goals it is a long journey to achieve the goals we have set.
Long journeys of long days and many decisions.
If we do not feel that the end goal is worth it then we will take the easy route, and the easy route will take us off the path to success.
If you are training for a marathon. You need to visualise how successfuly completing a marathon looks.
How does crossing the finishing line look? How will you feel? What will be different about you after your months of training? How will you be different? What behaviours will you have learned during the training months? What old behaviours will you have left behind?
When you visualise how this looks and feels you need to feel positive emotions and quite possibly a small rush of adrenalin/excitement too!
This is what you need to remind yourself of on the nights when it is cold, dark and raining and your schedule says you have an 8 mile run to do. Reminding yourself of this is what will help you put your trainers on and get going. Thinking about the success, pride and sense of achievement is what will get you past mile 6.
Too many people think about what their goal is without really thinking about what achieving success means.
Is it achievable?
It needs to be challenging enough to give you that sense of excitement and the intrinsic motivation to drive you forward, but not too challenging that it doesn’t seem achievable so you get a sense of overwhelm and jack it all in or look for reasons to pause.
If it doesn’t feel achievable what do you need to change to ensure that it does?
Do you need to change the size of the goal, for example a half marathon instead of a full marathon or do you need to reset the timescale so Bristol in September rather than Bath in March.
Look at the amount of involvement and investment needed. Check that you are able to commit to this without negative impact. What are you prepared to invest? How much mental and physical energy can you realistically give without risking burnout?
Keep adjusting until you look at what you have set out to achieve and feel that sense of excitement where you want to just get started rather than a sense of dread!
These are the two main points. There are lots of others but I have covered many of them off in other blogs so have feel free to click on the links and browse.
As one last pointer – Record and Review. Make sure you are writing all this down!
On the days where you are struggling most it is often inspiring to look back to see how much you have already achieved.
You can also use this record to review your progress and check you are on track!
Don't Ditch it - Enrich it
**Further support **
If you would like further support with setting and achieving your goals then check the Series of webinars and workshops.
You can also download the Phoenix APP which will help the record and review elements
If you aren’t sure which is best for you then book in a clarity call and we can discuss what you want to achieve and how Phoenix can support you to confidently live the life you choose.