Updated: Mar 13, 2020
At what point though do you realise that you need to make a change?
When do you say, “enough is enough”?
When I am talking about change you will hear me talk about the change curve by Elizabeth KUBLER ROSS. Whilst this was initially created to explain how people deal with bereavement it has since been used and can be applied to most circumstances of change.
Knowing you need to make a change is one thing, being ready to make the change is another.
With the change curve, you need to identify where you are.
Think about the situation you are in, take a moment, look at the curve diagram and identify what your present state is.
We don’t all move through the curve at the same pace or the same order and often people will ‘ping pong’ back and forth as they try and work out new approaches.
Once you have identified where you are, you can start to think about what you need to do to get to the ‘Acceptance’ and ‘Moving on’ stages until the new way is embedded and has become the norm.
Let’s take nutrition as an example. Denial can play a big part in refusing to accept that there is a problem, fear of change or anger that the situation has become ‘this bad’ are often feelings and emotions that people need to work through.
For some, the feeling of depression can often feel like they have ‘hit rock bottom’. Now, whilst this is a negative, this is often the driver for the change that is needed to motivate them to move forwards.
Once you understand what needs to change and accept how you can start to implement changes, then you are already starting to move forward to where you want to be and achieve the goal you want to achieve.
Previous blogs have talked through being stuck in a rut and how small changes can get you to your goal.
If you already know what you want to change, and you know what you need to do to make that change but are struggling to identify why you can’t take that first step, or why you keep going back, this may help explain.
Coaching support can help you with this, as can a support network. Team Phoenix provides both.
You don’t have to struggle through it alone.
If you want to find out more get in touch.